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Southern Cornbread Dressing: Memories of My Grandmother

Please read the special note at the end of the post.

My Grandmother

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Making cornbread always reminds me of my Grandmother. (And make no mistake; we called her Grandmother.  Not Grandma, Gramma or Granny.  She was Grandmother.)  Grandmother made her cornbread in an iron skillet. She believed that cornbread just tasted better if it was made in an iron skillet. The truth is that she was a fabulous cook. Whatever she made always seemed to taste just a little better than anyone else’s. She’d say, “I just followed the recipe. Well maybe I did add a little of this or that. It wasn’t enough to make a difference.”

Grandmother’s Cornbread Dressing

(I’ve shared the recipe at the end of this post.)

Grandmother’s cornbread dressing was one of those dishes that no one seemed able to duplicate with much success. I’d watch her make it and it seemed so simple. I also knew that no one else in the family ever, ever made it.  Long after Grandmother stopped preparing our entire holiday dinners; she’d still make the dressing and transport it to wherever the family was gathering.

Recently, I asked my aunt why Grandmother always made the dressing.   She told me that no one was ever able to make dressing that tasted as good as Grandmother’s; so they finally just quit trying.  By the time I was old enough to pay attention; Grandmother’s dressing was tradition.

I’d been married for a couple of years, barely into my 20s when I decided I would attempt to make cornbread dressing for my husband’s family for Christmas dinner. I’m sure that all the women in my family shook their heads in complete disbelief when I said that I planned to make Grandmother’s dressing.

Let Me Explain

Before I get further into the story, I need to explain a few things. I didn’t know how to cook back then because Grandmother did all the cooking (that’s another story for another day).  However, I come from a family that makes everything from scratch especially at holiday times. Before I got married, I didn’t know about instant potatoes or dressing that came in boxes. At my first Christmas dinner with my husband’s family, we had instant potatoes and some kind of boxed or bagged dressing. I didn’t know what to do when I was handed a box and asked to make the potatoes.   My sister-in-law showed me the directions on the back of the box. The next major dinner, I volunteered to bring the mashed potatoes –I used real potatoes. I became the potato preparer for the next several years.

Now, you should know that there were some really good cooks in my husband’s family (including my father-in-law and sister-in-law).  I still don’t know why they were using instant potatoes.  — Maybe it was because it was during the mid 70s and everyone was about convenience.  Needless to say, I never asked.

Yes, I Volunteered

Then came the year, I volunteered to bring the dressing. Yes, I volunteered.  (Ah – the bravery of youth.)  I asked my grandmother for the recipe and she started shaking her head.   She asked me if I was really ready for this. I bravely told her that yes I thought so.

41917-A-GrandmotherThis started a cooking lesson that lasted several weeks.   She talked me through it several times. Yet, she was still a little worried that I might not get it just right and end up embarrassing myself (or her)  in front of my husband’s family. She had me come over to her house a few days before Thanksgiving. We made the cornbread together and then, she actually sent me home. The night before Thanksgiving, Grandmother crumbled the cornbread into her special dressing pan, added the sautéed celery and onions plus all the seasonings to the cornbread. When I picked up the pan with the seasoned cornbread from her; she was still giving me advice about how to make sure I got it just right. – –Add a couple of beaten eggs and stir. Then start adding your turkey broth and a couple of sticks of butter (She’d always say, “The butter makes it rich. You can’t leave out the butter.”) Her last bit of advice was to keep working with the cornbread and broth until it’s about the consistency of cornbread right before you pour it into the pan. “If it’s too thick, it’ll take too long to cook and if it’s too thin; it’ll cook too fast.   You don’t want either one.”

Needless to say, I was rather nervous even after all of her preparation. Grandmother told me to tell my husband’s family that it was her recipe; but not to let on that she helped me.   The dressing was a hit that year and I got all the credit. Looking back, I know now that she was doing what she always did — taking care of me.  She knew I was still trying to find my place in my husband’s family and this was her way of helping.

I Did It!

The dressing was a hit and everyone really liked it.  I found my place; I became the dressing maker.   It always made my heart happy when I overheard Grandmother tell someone that I was the only one brave enough to make her cornbread dressing — especially when she’d add that it was almost as good as hers.

The Tradition Continues

I continue to make cornbread dressing at each holiday dinner. I’ve been making the recipe from memory for years with just one change — my husband does the final spoon taste before I put it in the oven.    I didn’t want the family recipe to be lost; so I’ve made a point to teach both my daughter and son how to make it. We usually prepare it together and I add the final seasonings. A few years ago, my daughter made it on her own for a dinner with friends. She called me for the recipe and I walked her through it by phone. Maybe it’s time to actually write the recipe down again.

Now you know why — Every time I make cornbread, I think of my grandmother.


Southern-style Cornbread Dressing

(Grandmother’s Version)


Make several pans of cornbread depending on the number you want to serve. (2 pans serves 6- 8 people, etc.)  I usually use 4 pans of cornbread for my dressing. Plenty for leftovers. It freezes well.


Cooking spray to grease pan

¼ cup butter or margarine (1/2 stick)

1-cup milk

1 large egg

03050CF000300000305091-cup yellow cornmeal

1-cup all-purpose flour

½ cup granulated sugar

1-tablespoon baking powder

½ teaspoon salt

Heat the oven to 400°F.

Spray the bottom and sides of an 8-inch square pan or 9-inch round cake pan with the cooking spray.

31E9C9NCCPL Or, grease a 10″ cast iron skillet. Increase temperature to 425°F and don’t forget to preheat the skillet.

In a large bowl, beat the melted butter, milk and egg with a fork or wire whisk until well mixed. Add the cornmeal, flour, sugar, baking powder and salt all at once; stir just until the flour is moistened (batter will be lumpy). Pour batter into the pan; use a rubber spatula to scrape batter from bowl. Spread batter evenly in pan and smooth top of batter.

Bake 20 to 25 minutes or until golden brown and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.

The cornbread can be made up to 2 days in advance when used for dressing. Store until needed, then crumble and follow instructions for the dressing.  I store mine in the refrigerator.

For the cornbread dressing

(Makes two 9 X 13 pans.)

4 sticks (1 cup) unsalted butter, divided

1 1/2  cups finely chopped sweet onion

2 cups finely chopped celery

5 cups chicken or turkey broth

4 large eggs, lightly beaten

2 teaspoons dried sage

Salt and pepper

Preheat oven to 350°F.

Crumble the cornbread into small pieces.

Melt 2 sticks butter in a large skillet over medium heat.

Add the onion and celery and sauté, stirring frequently, until soft and translucent, about 10 to 12 minutes.

Add the onion and celery to the cornbread mixture. Stir well.

Next, melt the remaining butter and stir into the cornbread mixture.

Add 2 lightly beaten eggs to each pan of cornbread mixture. Mix thoroughly.

Add chicken or turnkey broth to the cornbread mixture and mix until thoroughly blended.  Use just enough broth to make a consistency similar to a cornbread mixture.

Mix in sage and stir well.

Season generously with salt and pepper.

casseroledishjpg-8114700ee5972c15Pour into a greased 9 x 13 inch casserole dish. (4 pans of cornbread will make 2 pans of dressing) Bake, uncovered, until the dressing is set and golden brown, about 45 to 50 minutes.

Special note:  I don’t use a glass casserole dish when I make my dressing.  I use my mother-in-law’s old heavy-duty roasting pan.    She always cooked her turkey or ham in it.  The lid is almost as large as the pan itself.  One year, I used the lid to cook the dressing and it soon became the dressing pan.  I’ve since inherited the actual roasting pan.  I rather like the thought of making Grandmother’s dressing in my mother-in-law’s pan.  It’s like all both our families are now part of the tradition.

Do you have family recipes that have been passed down through the generations?  What memories do those recipes have for you?

Click on these links for more information about the images used in this post.

Quaker Yellow Corn Meal  This is the brand we use in Texas and I prefer yellow.  You can use any brand or color you choose.  🙂

Recipe Box Makeover  Do you still have a recipe box or do you keep your recipes on your computer?

Iron Skillet   Do you own an iron skillet?

Glass casserole dish  Can you ever have too many casserole dishes?


Due to some unusual circumstances and life in general, I won’t be making Grandmother’s Cornbread Dressing during the holidays for the first time in 30+ years.  I have to admit that it makes me just a little sad.  Traditions are important to me because they bring back such good memories.  Our life is good; but we are learning that sometimes traditions need to evolve.  Maybe that’s a good topic for another blog post.

Happy Holidays to you all!



10 thoughts on “Southern Cornbread Dressing: Memories of My Grandmother

  1. I loved your blog post. I do have recipes that came from both my Grandmothers. I also have many of my Maternal Grandmothers cooking pots and I love using them especially while cooking her recipes.


    • Thanks so much! We just found my grandmother’s iron skillet as we were unpacking during our move. I was so glad to find it. I have lots of her recipes, too. I plan to put together a book for our family. I’m glad you stopped by. Thanks for the follow! 🙂


  2. I cannot finish reading this about Aunt Vera right now as tears have filled my eyes and missing her at this moment hurts. Looking at the picture of her makes it seem like she is right here. She was a good cook. I remember her cooking a turkey at our Aunt Ruby’s house in a brown grocery sack with Crisco or something like that smeared over it. She said it kept the sack from catching on fire. I loved going down to her mother’s house in Hollis, OK and Mrs. Cole would have some of her cookies made up.

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    • I miss her too. She was such an important part of our lives. This was a hard post for me to write; but now the memory brings me comfort.


  3. Dear me. I saw the skillet and I was hooked. My mom now gone made cornbread in cast iron. It wasn’t sweet either like the northern folks here in Seattle made. I think my Dads mom taught her. Guess what her mom was born in Texas around 1860. Best cornbread ever is skillet made!!! Luv your blog. Blogging 101 is grand. R


    • Thanks so much for your feedback. This was a special post for me. So cool that your Dad’s mom was born in Texas. Wow – 1860. My grandmother was born in 1913 which was always remarkable to me. I miss her everyday. Linda.


    • You are so right — love was the most important ingredient. Thanks for reading this. I think it was one of the hardest posts I’ve written because it was so very close to my heart.


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